Love $ Lust Talking $ Listening Sweet $ Sour Tea $ Sympathy

Vive la Différence! brings you information and support if you’re a gay or bisexual man in a relationship where one of you has HIV and the other doesn’t. These are sometimes called ‘sero-discordant relationships’or ‘mixed HIV status relationships’.

“Facing up to and dealing with problems often makes a couple closer. And relationships between HIV positive and HIV negative men can be the strongest, most intense and most rewarding of all.”

Anthony Clarke, relationship counsellor


Love and Lust

Information to help you weigh up the risk of passing on the virus during different ways of having sex, and different types of foreplay.


Talking and Listening

Advice to help you communicate effectively and constructively within your relationship.


Sweet and Sour

Dealing with problems in your relationship and advice on how to overcome them.  Includes advice on talking about HIV with friends and family, supporting your partner, dealing with illness and treatment and legal and financial matters.


Tea and Sympathy

Information for dealing with relationship breakups, bereavement and grief and contact details for help and support near to where you live.